Since I am in the over 50 bracket now, my age preference has changed, not knocking my friends who like to be a Cougar. I just like an older gentleman.
The tips below will help you if you are interested in dating older instead of younger. Keep an open mind and roll with it.
1. Ask His Opinion and Value It
An older guy may have a broader perspective on life simply because he is more experienced, you can ask him questions that a younger man might find threatening. For instance, you can ask him about career moves or money management he may, offer you advice from his experience, or refer you to professional colleagues, or simply point out where you can find your best answers.
Additionally, an older man will probably really enjoy talking things over with you. By asking him about important decisions you’re thinking of making, he will not only be able to offer insights, but he will also feel recognized and appreciated. Older men like to share their knowledge, wisdom, and advice. They enjoy being generous and helpful which really applies to a lot of guys.
2. Stay Informed on Current Events
Being on top of what is happening in the world will make you a good conversationalist. Learn how to talk about a variety of topics that might interest a professional man or one involved in business or current events. While you don’t have to be an expert on the things that interest a man with an established career, you need to know enough to ask interesting questions. Since it’s a political season most people have an opinion one way or another, this would be a great start. You don’t have to agree with everything, but know what you are talking about.
3. Don’t Be Too Needy
While men do appreciate a woman who needs them, they also appreciate a woman who is independent – someone who is able to make decisions, earn their own money, and take care of herself. When you don’t feel independent, you place a burden on the relationship. Even if a man earns much more than you and can easily take care of all your expenses, he will feel stifled if he has to take care of all the bills and expenses, as well as make all the decisions on where to go out for dinner, where to shop, and other simple things. So stay self-assured, confident, and fairly independent.
4. Have Your Own Interests
When you do your thing, such as pursue your favorite athletic interests, forms of entertainment, education, or career path, you will give your older man space to do his thing too. Some men, especially men at the height of their career, often need space to just figure out their next move in life or how to resolve work-related problems. If you’re busy doing your thing, then you won’t smother him with an excessive amount of attention. Additionally it shows you don’t have to be joined at the hip every waking hour or moment.
5. Know When to Say Goodbye
If you know in the beginning that the two of you aren’t going to be a long-term fit but decide to date anyway, know when it’s time to say goodbye. You don’t want to stay in a relationship that isn’t going in the direction you want for yourself too long. If you want kids and he doesn’t, you don’t want to wait until you’re close to menopause to find someone new. Older men can be a little possessive so know the signs and when to draw the line and throw in the towel when necessary.
Saying that age doesn’t matter when you’re dating is ludicrous. Of course it matters or it wouldn’t be such a big deal. Dating an older man can be a wonderful experience if treated with dignity and mutual respect. An age difference between two people who really like each other is something that quickly becomes a non-issue. Believe me there is no reason a relationship between a younger woman and an older man can’t work out as long both people are happy and enjoy each other’s company.