The Power of Words

If you have ever attended a Sunday Morning Service, I am sure you have heard the verse, Life and Death or in the Power of the tongue and those who love it will eat its fruits. Word is defined as Speech or talk: to express one’s emotion in words, or an utterance. News or information, an undertaking or promise, a decree and order, a slogan.

From that definition alone you can see that Words have power and can dictate an action depending on the use of what is said.

Words can change a situation from heated to calm. Words can start a fight or end a disagreement without violence. (Back in my day if you said Your Mama during an argument a fight will start) Words can build up or Words can tear down. I often heard when younger to choose your words wisely. As a child I really didn’t understand how choosing my words wisely would make a difference, but as time has progressed and as I have experienced life, personal and professional I have learned the value and Power of the words I speak. And even what I allow others to speak into me.

How many of you know how it is when you think you have met the one who will hang the moon and the stars. Well I married that man and stayed married for 18 years. It was awesome the first 5 to 7 years then the game changed. That man got strung out on Crack cocaine and our heavenly home became hell. I had 3 beautiful children from that union. I ballooned to 269 lbs. on a 5’0 frame and Krispy cream and the hot doughnut sign became my friend. I was broken, my self-esteem was low and I felt hopeless and I remember saying no one would want a fat woman with 3 babies.

Les Brown says and I quote “Forgive yourself for your faults and your mistakes and move on.”  Say with me then the game changed. I decided to start speaking into my life with positive words and took action. I decided to take charge of my health and had surgery and lost over 110 lbs., I decided to go back to school at 40 years old with the desire to just complete my Bachelors, then I went on to the Masters and wow I said Doctor Shell sounds good too. I left that man and excelled even the more.

My question for you today is this?

What are you saying or speaking about your situation? What are you saying regarding your life? What are you saying or speaking about others, your family, your children, your friends?

So when you speak or say something negative you or sending out an instruction or intention regarding your situation!

If you are wondering why things are going wrong or not quite like what you want. Change what you say. Speak what you desire, even if you don’t see. You can absolutely change your circumstances, your money, your health, your Life. ( I am a witness).

If we want to change our lives and our destiny, we need to consciously choose the words we use to describe our emotional states. What would happen if, the next time you were in a situation that used to make you feel angry or annoyed, you used a word like I am “peeved” instead of “enraged to describe your experience? Conversely, if someone asks you how you’re doing, think of the difference between responses like “Oh, I’m okay, and I’m Awesome, Fabulous and Amazing. “The words you speak become your experience. Therefore, I say choose your words wisely.

Words not used in the correct way bring wreck, havoc, and disharmony to those whom the words are fired towards. However, one good, edifying word brings joy and hope to those who need it most. The ways words are said reveal the condition of the heart and the status of the circumstance. When used correctly, words have the power to change the world.

One of the things I do to empower me through words are to speak affirmations. An affirmation is a statement that is carefully crafted to address an unwanted pattern and transform it through the use of positive thought. An affirmation or affirming statement can be a phrase that is written down or a statement that is repeated verbally. An affirmation may also be an audio recording that is listened to repeatedly. Affirmations focus attention on the positive outcome of a situation, and are structured to affirm that the positive outcome is already a reality.

Samples Affirmations:

My life is filled with love, fun, and friendship.
I am loving and lovable, and I find love everywhere.
I live in harmony and balance.
I make friends easily!

I am giving to others generously in thought, word and deed.

3 Actions I want you to do today:

A. Be mindful of your Words that you speak over yourself and others.
B. Choose a word or affirmation for the day (and say it or meditate on it until it resonates).
C. Do the top two tips (again and again until it becomes second nature).

Mother Teresa:   “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are endlessly.”

Remember there is Power in our Words!!